Today’s #30Layers30Days prompt is Favorite Mistake. “If you are down on yourself for making ‘bad decisions’, take the opportunity now to consider what is blocking you from perceiving your mistakes as lessons that will eventually benefit you. We are only able to progress by making mistakes. To be truly happy, we have to stop romanticizing perfection and make authenticity our guiding principle. Sometimes we have to do things the wrong way many many times before we learn what’s right for us. Trust that process1.”
What mistake have you learned the most from?
This post is one of the hardest for me to share. It brings me back to reality. Away from the sugarcoated version of my life. I have to remind myself that no one, including me, is perfect.
I cheated on my husband once.
It was during a time when we were in a bad place. He was going his own way and I was going mine. There was no communication, no trust, and no understanding. I consider it my favorite mistake, simply because it’s one that I don’t regret. I know why it happened and I use it as a reminder of a place where I never want to be again. In hindsight, I went about it the wrong way. I should have never gone that route. But that is the beauty of mistakes, right?
It’s been four years and we’ve had our ups and downs, but we are still fighting to make it work. There have been plenty of times where I could have taken the same road, but I chose not to. Not because it isn’t right, but because it isn’t fair.
What I learned from the experience is wrong plus wrong does not equal right. There is no better solution than communication and understanding. I was worried about my husband spending a lot of time away from home, while I was stuck with our child2. I went through every scenario over and over again in my head. He would ask me to open up and talk to him about what I was feeling and I wouldn’t. I had convinced myself that he was this terrible person. If I had talked to him about what I was feeling, it could have saved us a lot of heartache. Chances are we’d be in a much better place right now. But we aren’t…