Joy Snatchers

Today’s #30Layers30Days prompt is Joy Snatchers. “Joy snatchers are those little things that pick away at your peace of mind and drain your positive energy. They distract you when you are trying to be productive. They cause strain and stress in your relationships. Perhaps they bring out a side of you that you don’t like or they bring about feelings of depression and self-loathing. Joy snatchers can be people, places, things, feelings, thoughts, and more. Joy Snatchers are often responsible for those black cloud days when you’re in a funk and you can’t really explain why1.”

Identify some of your joy snatchers and their impact on your life. Narrow it down to your #1 joy snatcher. What can you do to minimize or eliminate its influence? More importantly, do you know and believe that you have the power to do so?

This isn’t hard for me as I’ve already identified the things that snatch my joy.

  • My marriage
  • Not living comfortably

If I had to choose one to be more of a joy snatcher than the other, it would have to be not living comfortably. It’s not that we don’t make the money, it’s just that we have too many bills. Between paying the IRS and student loans2, it’s hard to have enough money to live comfortably. I’ve been making a lot of changes as far as paying off small bills and switching service providers. We were paying Verizon $320 a month, and by switching to T-Mobile3 we are saving over $200 a month. The transmission went out on the Altima a few weeks after getting it fixed and painted, and the decision was made not to get it fixed. At this point, it’s more affordable4 to just use one vehicle. I’m also considering becoming a SAHM, simply because of the fact that the majority of what I make goes to daycare/kindergarten costs.

That last one is still up in the air. There’s so many other factors that become involved… Especially since divorce has come up. I know that things will work out. I just have to keep pushing.

  1. Quoted from All The Many Layers []
  2. Both his bills, not mine []
  3. who offers similar service in the city, but not back home []
  4. even though it’s not convenient all of the time []

Start. Stop. Continue.

Today’s prompt of the #30Layers30Days is Start. Stop. Continue.

START: What do you want to start doing? What do you want more of in your life? What feelings, what activities, what energy? What baby step can you take today?

I want to start loving myself more. I want more love in my life. I’m at a point where I’m mostly filled with hatred. I feel like I’m always angry and I hate it. I just want to feel happy. I want the smile that is always on my face to be real. I want to be positive. I want to get out more and do things that I love to do… Things that I have forgotten. I’m not sure where to start. There are so many things that I feel are holding me back. The most I can do is let the journey start from within.

STOP: What have you had enough of? What are you tolerating or feeding into that is not adding value to your life? What area of your life is begging for more boundaries?

This is hard to say, but I’m tired of my marriage. I know marriage isn’t easy, but over the last six years, I feel as if I have lost more than I’ve gained. I’m tolerating the emotional abuse that I know isn’t good for me. I’m tolerating being married because I want our children to be happy and grow up in a two parent home. As much as I would love for things to work out, I have to say that they won’t if things don’t change.

CONTINUE: What habits or trends do you want to continue? What’s been working for you? What can you do to ensure you keep it going?

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I want to continue being a great mother to my children. I feel like I exist because of them. I’m standing up for myself more. Not taking any s***, and even though we argue more… It’s working for me. At this point. I have to start with me. And I’ll end this with a verse from one of my favorite songs:

And her name is me
And she loves me more than you’ll ever know
And I finally see that
Loving you and loving me just don’t seem to work at all
So patiently
She’s waiting on me to tell you that she needs love
And to choose between you two
Boy you know if I have to choose I choose me

-Tamia: “Me”

Hello There!

Hello there! I’m Terin, the neglectful owner of this blog. I promise that I’ve been gone for a really good reason1! Let me just start by saying that I have completely forgotten how to work WP. And why does it look so different???

Our May

Let’s get started, shall we? First of all: I quit Bank of America. I couldn’t be happier! I now work in the TD Bank Operations center.
Secondly: JJ graduated! He’s learned so much and I am VERY proud.
And yeah… That pretty much sums it all up.

Why I Quit After Six Years

Anyone who knows me, knows that I absolutely loved working for BofA. Then we relocated. I had a horrible manager and no option to transfer since I have to be in my new location for a year. I had no time to spend with my family. I was only getting one Saturday off a month and a lot of weeks I had to work six days. For me, I’m really big on family and being around for my children, so the working all the time was not working for me. I was so depressed. I even ended up in the hospital, and my doctor gave me some of the best advice. Quit my job.

Just so happened, I got out of the hospital in time for my interview with TD Bank. They were so impressed that I got an offer the same day. I can choose my own shift and I only have to work one Saturday every six weeks or so. I love my job. I love my coworkers. I don’t have headaches every day. It’s fabulous!

So that’s my life right now. I’m adjusting to the new job and enjoying my family.

  1. or reasons… []

Oh What A Week!

This week has been crazy!!

It started with having to work six days because of my direct supervisor’s vacation. Then, there were the callouts that left me in charge of the teller line. On Thursday, I came home to a little boy with red, swollen eyes and a snotty, swollen nose! I ended up having to take Friday morning off to get him to a doctor. My lucky boy has a severe pollen allergy!1 He’s been prescribed Claritin, Flonase, and Zytec. Poor little thing can’t even go outside.

And then there is Ivy. It’s a new week, but she’s started it with projectile vomiting! I’m starting to believe that this little one has a milk allergy, since she only throws up milk. She has an appointment set for later in the month.

Cheers to my burnt chocolate chip pancakes and morning spent cleaning carpet… And it isn’t even 9AM yet.

  1. We live in one of the top 5 WORST cities in the US for people with a pollen allergy! Who knew?! []

DIY Duck Tape Table

Duck Tape Table Close Up

A couple of weeks ago, I was browsing Instagram and saw a link to Sophistishe’s Duck Tape Table tutorial. I knew then that I had to try it. I purchased the tape at Dollar General and got to work. I must admit that this was a quick and easy task!! It took about 30 minutes (maybe less) and I wanted to duck tape everything when I was done.
I also ended up rearranging the furniture in our living room. Ivy started walking a little over a week ago and the set up that I had was not enough space for her to room. She was bumping her head on the coffee table, banging on the sliding door, and pulling cords.
Having the furniture this way is a lot more secure. All of the plugs and surge protectors are hidden now. The kids also have a lot more room to play on the floor. The design before had the loveseat on the opposite side of the sofa..acting more as a divider. This is the third time that I’ve rearranged furniture this month and I think it’s a winner.